Wow…this book continues to hit the nail on the head! Who’d a guessed many of these abusive groups hobby horse the hating scripture?! From pages 217 and 218 of Twisted Scriptures:
“The Most Famous Misused Verse
If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother his wife and children, his brothers and sisters…yes, even his own life…he cannot be my disciple.
What member of a controlling group doesn’t know this verse? Stressing this verse in the wrong way can drive psychological wedges between church members and their families. It can even lead members to feel disgust for those who love them. Now, compare this to the next verses:
1 John 4:20,21:
If anyone says, “I love God,” yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command; Whoever loves God must also love his brother.
Controlling groups often selectively focus on verses that can be used to support the leaders’ agendas. Most disciples who have been subjected to stressing of Luke 14:26 did not receive equal instruction on these words of John. I find this interesting and enlightening.”
How much I allowed this “hating” scripture to be pushed onto me without the other scriptures to give it balance! It caused me to cut off my family members and anyone else in my life that didn’t agree with this heresy. I weep as I feel the pain I have inflicted on my family members “in the name of God.”